How to deal with heartbreak 

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Hey my loves! I decided to talk about heartbreak and share some suggestions in how to deal with such a difficult situation. Now, this was the most requested topic as i try to help as many as i can with this issue so my apologies in advance if this turns into a 5000 word essay. A short disclaimer before i start, this post is aimed at any sort of romantic relationship married or unmarried, im not encouraging “haram” relationships. I support those with good intentions and those who are prepared to make it work.  In this day and age, who hasnt been in one, but the purpose of this is to just to help and become a better person and hopefully to see the right way for themselves.

Im no stranger to relationships and over time ive developed ways to get over “it” and make the situation less damaging than it already is. Even though these suggestions are personal, i feel like they can be applied to whatever reason the relationship ended.

1) Acceptance

The most basic step to move forward is when you feel as if your drowning, when you feel lifeless. when everything around you feels so dark and so bleak, accepting that your in this situation and you may be like this for a while, is the first step to recovery. Coming to terms with whats happened takes time but accepting it is so so important. Dont be in denial. For example, if you’ve been cheated on, dont carry on as if everythings normal and as if your partner hasnt done anything wrong. Acceptance is recovery. Also, accepting your feelings, the fact that your in pain is equally important. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO CRY. I cant emphasise that enough. Cry in your bed, cry at the park, cry when your eating but dont hold it in thinking your strong and you dont need to cry over someone. Thinking that bottles up your anger and pain and trust me on this, its gonna come out one day and it will be nasty.

2) Dont think all is lost

This is me saying this from a very personal experience. So when you lose someone i can agree that you feel as if your life has ended, everything loses its purpose and nothing matters anymore. When you lie on your bed, catatonic, and the pillow is drenched with tears i fully understand how we think all is lost. There is no easy way to get out of this. Personally, i sleep a lot by taking a bunch of painkillers waking up and doing the same and it carries on until staying awake doesnt hurt anymore (I completely dont recommend this btw). However sleeping it out used to help me, by sleeping i didnt have to face reality. In this situation you have to find something that works for you, but for the love of God, please think of your health when finding a solution. All is not lost. Remember, before your partner you were someone, you had a family, a life and you can still be that same person. It all however depends on how strong you are to go back to being that person.

3) Talk to someone

You might have heard of this a million times but talking is the best cure. But it doesnt have to be the same person. I used to feel that i was annoying my friends by letting out my feelings ( it was all in my head of course) I used to turn to my family. Of course it depends on the situation, some situations are as such that you cant tell your family. But saying something like, “i feel so lost” or ” i cant ever be happy” will obviously get a concerned reaction and you’lll be surprised at how your parents/siblings can help you. The one person not to talk to is your ex. Especially straightaway. If after some time seeing him out in public doesnt want to make you emotional then thats probably a good time to forgive and forget. Talking it out may make you realise things you didnt understand before, because sometimes its not only your partner’s fault it ended but it might have been yours too.

4) Prayer

So after you’ve accepted the situation and let your feelings out you need to pray. In this type of situation, its easier said than done but nevertheless you have to! A bit ironic coming from me as after a breakup, i lose hope in everything and i dont see the point in praying anymore. I once stopped praying for about 6/7 months (teenagehood😩 ), but if i had just moved my butt over to the prayer mat every now and then i couldve recovered so much quicker. Breakups/ divorces happen for a reason and i cant say much except for God knows best. Maybe your getting saved from something terrible, maybe you deserve someone better or maybe its just not your time to get married yet. Turning to your Lord when you’ve hit rock bottom may just change the entire course of your life so seize this opportunity.

5) Treat yo’self

After praying, (of course you followed my advice above🤗). It is time to treat yourself. I treat myself a little too much so it feels pretty normal to me but you are allowed to 100% spoil yourself. I normally turn to makeup and buy a product i wouldnt normally do. However, UNLIKE ME DONT SPEND YOUR ENTIRE SAVINGS. Little warning there. Remember, you do have an entire life after this. Spoil yourself but dont think that hey i dont have a wedding to save up for anymore, hello christian louboutin. I mean sure buy a pair if you want or go get yourself a waffle with an extra scoop of ice cream, but please dont over do it. Overdraft is a dark place to be in and you wanna be happy (emotionally, spiritually and financially🙌)

So thats pretty much all i wanted to ramble on about. Making sure that you do all these things will make the getting over “it” process quicker and slightly easier to deal with. It is tough but theres light at the end of the tunnel. There always is. And when you make a fabulous entrance into singlehood its gonnna be great i promise. When you are single, stay single. For a while at least to be happy and enjoy life and give yourself time to keep recovering, because it wont happen overnight.

If you need further personalised help/advice and need someone to talk to im happy to help. You can contact me by using any of the links in the Contact page

See you in my next post!

Love from Sahibah x

The new Vacation edition, Send Me More Nudes Velvet liquid lipstick review, by Kylie Cosmetics!

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Hey my loves, im back with a review of the new velvet liquid lipsticks by Kylie Cosmetics, as part of her summer ’17 collection!

Love em or hate em, the Kardashian/Jenner’s always find new ways to keep us hooked and when the collection was ready to purchase i was 100% certain that they would sell out within seconds. I was not expecting to get hold of anything because im sure we all know how ridiculously fast her products sell out and the commotion from customers afterwards. It can get quite messy.  So for that reason, i had no intention buying anything because i had suffered enough trying to get the mini mattes from her birthday collection last year ( if you’re from my snapchat you would know)  HOWEVER, by some great miracle i managed to get my hands on these babies 11 MINUTES in!

11 whole minutes in on the first restock. This was a makeup miracle. So without really thinking, in sheer excitement i somehow pressed “complete order”. I had no idea what, why, how a velvet lipstick even is and i was skeptical about the shades. But the deed was done.

The lipsticks themselves were 45 dollars (£35), shipping was 14.95 (£11.65) so in total that was 59.95 dollars ( £46.72). Oh and there’s the customs fee :))) which was £16.81. So you are looking at a grand total, in pounds, £63.46 (Damn you, customs  damn you) So now lets get into the review and see whether its worth the splurge

Top to bottom: Naked (a sandy beige), Birthday suit (nude warm beige), Bare (nude pinky beige, Commando (terracota beige) – Descriptions are from the Kylie Cosmetics website

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This was my very first time swatching them and i really liked the shades. They’re my idea of perfect nudes, there’s a good variety between pinks, deep nudes and a muted terracota shade. So far so good! As this was my first time wearing a velvet liquid lipstick i was a bit skeptical because im so used to wearing matte’s or just a lip topperPicsArt_06-28-01.15.39

However, this is what Naked, Birthday Suit, Bare and Commando look on my skintone. My natural lips are quite pigmented in colour so these shades may look different to what you would see on other people on the Kylie Cosmetics Instagram. Overall, i like Commando (last image on the right and Birthday Suit (1st image in the middle two). Commando is my absolute favourite, its a beautiful terracota nude that stays true to its description. Its my latest obsession and i just wish it was sold as an individual so i could stock up for life! Birthday Suit reminds me of the matte Exposed by Kylie Cosmetics and again, its a beautiful warm nude. Bare is on the light pinky nude spectrum and it wouldnt be something i would reach out for so im not too keen on it. Last but not least, as you can see, Naked is way too pale and it washes me out so thats a no go.

The Formula

As this is my first time trying out a velvet formula, i didnt know what to expect. I though it would either be glossy, or have a wet feel to it and there would be transfer everywhere. To my surprise, it was quite the opposite. The application was smooth and even, it was non drying, my lips felt hydrated throughout the day as if i barely had anything on! The formula won me over❤

Final Verdict

In my opinion, i think its a great collection and getting your hands on it, in itself is a great miracle. Im happy with 2 of the shades, however the other two dont look so great on me, but it’s the formula that wins me over and it outperforms the mattes from Kylie Cosmetics that pretty much suck the moisture from my lips. Overall, its a great makeup buy!

Alternatives/Dupes

Here are some alternatives/dupes that from my personal experience, i feel would work if you dont want to suffer through International shipping and customs!

That concludes my review, i hope you found it helpful

See you in my next post!

Love from Sahibah x

An honest review of the Huda Beauty Rose Gold Palette

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Hey my loves, I’ve been wanting to share my opinion about this palette that has been all over the internet ever since its launch last year in October. Huda Kattan for me, was the only beauty guru and You tuber I relied on back when I started learning so she’s been a massive influence and I’ve been crushing on her since 2011😊 (who doesnt she’s perfect😩)

When the palette launched I’ve got to be honest I wasn’t into it. Pink eyeshadow didn’t appeal to me and when I looked at the price tag plus the shipping all the way from Dubai which came up to 85 dollars in total, it put me off .

However, on my 20th birthday in April,  my sisters treated me to makeup. So I thought to make use of this rare gesture and bought the palette after seeing so many swatches, reviews, looks on the internet as it slightly changed my opinion of it. As you all may know the palette launched in the UK and you can purchase it from Cult Beauty for £56 with free shipping (which in my opinion is still a little pricey!).

Overall performance of the shadows

The most important aspect of any  eyeshadow palette for me are the shadows. I’m not too fussy about the packaging however I do appreciate it, but since this product has a high price point the shadows had to work. The mattes: Sandalwood. Henna, Maneater, Coco, Suede, Black Truffle, Shy, Flamingo and Bossy have been tried and tested for a couple of months and they perform perfectly. They are blendable using only the tinest amount on a blending or crease brush. This is great as it extends the longevity of the shadow since you only need a tiny amount so in a way you are getting your money’s worth.

Howeverrr, the performance of the 3D Metals are so weird. I cant use any other word to describe it. I was expecting super pigment in on swipe and it would look amazing. The shadows: Dubai, Fling, 24K and Angelic are consistent in every use using my ring finger, and I can rely on them to not be chunky and for there to be a strong deposit of colour.

Rose Gold, Trust Fund and #Blessed are very inconsistent. I wanted to use Rose Gold in the middle of my lid, I used my finger (as your supposed to) and I got almost nothing. I had to use a pink highlighter, and I hate using two palettes as I prefer everything in one so I was really disappointed.

These three shades are patchy, they look nothing like the swatches I see on the internet and when applied on the eyes, you can see almost little to no colour/pigment. 3 out of 18 shadows are inconsistent and that’s just really disappointing because these are the shades that appeal to me the most and the ones I would’ve regularly used.

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Final Verdict, is it worth the splurge?

So in my opinion, this palette does perform well in terms of the mattes and some 3D metals, but the fact that it costs £56 and 3 out of the 7 metal shadows ( which is the main selling point) perform terribly,  it is most definitely not worth the splurge. Even though I didn’t pay for it, it was a gift I still feel really disappointed. I find it annoying how one palette performs well for someone but then the exact same palette has terrible payoff for someone else.  Therefore, if you haven’t bought it yet I would highly recommend trying it out maybe through someone else’s and see whether ALL the shades perform the same and whether it works for you.

Alternatives

These are some alternatives to the shades in the Huda Beauty palette. Im not aware of a complete dupe of the entire palette and I feel that’s why the palette is so distinct and in such high demand. However, these are some products that I love and have been using religiously

  • @Jasmine_khatunbeauty on Instagram has a plethora of loose glitter pigments with shades that are very much similar to the ones in the Huda Beauty Palette
  • @Certifeye is one of my favourite eyeshadow, glitter and eyelash brand on Instagram. Their Majestic palette has shades that are dupes to the Huda Beauty palette. For example, the shade “Power” almost looks identical to “Rose Gold”. They also have a wide range of budget friendly glitters/pigments!
  • Single shadows from Makeup Geek such as “Curtain Call” “Fortune Teller” and “Flame Thrower” are perfect dupes and again are very budget friendly.

That wraps up my review, i wanted to be really honest and help those who havent yet bought this palette in making a informed decision. Let me know in the comments below of any more dupes I may have missed out and whether the palette has worked for you, or any hacks you know to make the 3D metals work!. I would love to know ❤

See you in my next post!

Love from Sahibah x

Why I’ve made a blog

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Hey my loves,

I wanted my very first post to be about why and how I came about blogging. Now for some, its not a huge deal but for me its been a long decision ( 2 years to be exact). Yes, you heard that right, it took me 2 years to muster up the courage to write what I love and put myself out online. (even though I’m still figuring out how to use this, but I’ll get better I promise)

As a teen, I slowly got into makeup and very quickly fell in love with it. Ive always wanted my own style and loved reading books about beauty, learning about makeup artists of the past and creating my own style. But anyway fast forward to 2015, I wanted to have my own blog. So I drew up some designs, had plans for my Instagram to be more instagrammy and went on make up sprees. Somehow, I started taking it too seriously and I kind of forced myself into it by being all serious about target audience, monetising and only writing about one thing, blah blah. It sucked the fun out if it. Even in makeup I pushed myself to do it better and then that became a chore too and I dropped the whole idea. I always had doubts and this voice in my head that said, my make up isn’t good enough, or I don’t have enough followers and no one will read my posts so i might as well not bother…

Fast forward to 2017 where I left Instagram to take a break from all the pretty girls, the lavishness, the glamour of it all (hope someone can relate!). In this time, I had an epiphany. It took me a while but I became content with who I am and my abilities. Now, ive started to not feel insecure/threatened by other influencers because I actually felt that way and now I post what I like and take risks (AKA, this blog).

This blog is kind of a personal diary that I want to share. I’ll be talking about issues that people have requested and issues im passionate about such as suicide, depression, mental health, and so much more that I really want to share. If anyone wants to reach out to me I’m only a click away and i’ll also be including the relevant helplines.

So to wrap up this insanely long post ( I love you if you’ve made it this far ❤ ) . Take risks. Seriously take the plunge and don’t leave projects halfway. Take risks and you’ll be surprised because it may be the best thing you’ve ever done.

See you in my next post!

Love from Sahibah x